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Dina, La Madrina is the godmother to us all. She's a woman of many experiences. She's the best friend you could have when it comes to advice and she's always here for you.
Feel free to call on Dina La Madrina, anytime with any question. The greatest advantage is that your conversation with her is very private. On the other hand, let us know if you'd like to share your story with others. Many women may be in your shoes but too shy to speak up. So talk to us.
Recent question to La Madrina:
Hello I'm a Puerto Rican single women with 2 kids and I'm doing it all by myself. I feel very depressed all the time I just lost my little brother and then I broke up with the father of my kids and I'm so confused I don't know if I should go back with him or not. I love him but then I hate him for all of the things that happened in our relationship. He wants to get back with me but he's really not supporting the kids.
La Madrina: Not knowing how old you are or your kids, all I can give you is basic general good advice :)
If you don't have a job...see if you can get one, because being with other people and getting out of the house every day lessens the feeling of depression and alone. If you need to get more schooling such as a GED, AA) or training see if there is some organization in your neighborhood or center that offers financial aid advice. You could probably get info on line. Also try P.R. agencies such as ASPIRA, PR legal defense fund, women groups or other Hispanic or Latino organizations would be able to help you. You can find them in the telephone book under PR, Hispanic, Latino, or women's organizations.
The idea here is not necessarily about money. It's about getting out the house, away from kids and being with other women whom may have been in the same situation and can offer ideas, contacts or advice.
When I was a single mother w/ 2 kids I exchanged baby-sitting time con mi vecina. I kept her kids all day Saturday in exchange for her keeping my kids 2 nights a week while I went to back to school.
What do you mean "he really doesn't support the kids"? If you know his social security number any family court in this country would make him financially responsible for supporting the kids.
Lastly, about the lost of your little brother.... I too have lost a younger brother. The truth is that I had to go to "grief / bereavement" counseling for a little while. And sometimes prayers help. Life-- it's hard sometimes but never hopeless.
"No hay mal que de bueno no venga"
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